Breaking Cycles While Parenting: The Missing Piece No One Talks About

Have you ever noticed how most parenting spaces fall into one of two categories?

1️⃣ The ones run by people who seem like they’ve already done all the healing and are parenting with endless patience, emotional intelligence, and connection. (Must be nice. 🙃)

2️⃣ The ones focused on how to heal your relationship with your parents, unpacking childhood trauma, and doing the inner work.

But what about the people who are in the middle of it—breaking cycles in real-time while actively raising little humans?

Because let me tell you… that part is HARD.

It’s one thing to sit with your journal, reflect on your triggers, and understand the concept of nervous system regulation. It’s a whole other thing to apply it when:

🚨 Your toddler is screaming on the floor because their banana broke.

🚨 Your child is testing every single boundary you’ve set today.

🚨 You’re overstimulated, exhausted, and suddenly reacting exactly how you swore you wouldn’t.

And just like that, all that inner work? Out the window.

Then the guilt hits.

💭 I know better. So why can’t I do better?

💭 Am I screwing up my kid the way I was screwed up?

💭 Is it always going to feel this hard?

The truth?

Parenting in a healing way isn’t intuitive when you weren’t raised with it.

Why Parenting This Way Feels So Hard

The parents who “just get it” often do because they were raised with emotional safety, validation, and healthy modeling.

For the rest of us? We’re out here trying to learn emotional intelligence while simultaneously teaching it. We’re re-parenting ourselves while parenting our kids.We’re breaking cycles without a blueprint.

And when you’re stressed, overstimulated, or exhausted? Your body defaults to old programming—the reactions it learned first. That’s why, despite all the inner work, you might still find yourself snapping, shutting down, or struggling to stay present.

The Missing Piece: How to Actually Apply Healing in Parenting

Most parenting advice out there focuses on the theory of healing, regulation, and connection-based parenting. But what about the real-life, in-the-moment guidance for when you’re deep in the trenches?

What parents actually need is:

✔️ How to regulate yourself when your child’s behavior triggers you (because logic doesn’t help when you’re already spiraling)

✔️ What to actually say when your child is losing it (without making it about calming them down for your own comfort)

✔️ How to repair after mistakes (without the guilt spiral that makes you want to give up)

✔️ How to teach emotional intelligence (without making it your child’s job to manage your emotions)

Because parenting in a healing way isn’t just about NOT yelling—it’s about knowing what to do instead.

This Is the Support That’s Missing for Cycle-Breaking Parents

You don’t need more theory. 

You need real, practical guidance for what to do in the moment.

That’s exactly why I’m creating a course specifically for parents who weren’t raised with emotional intelligence but want to raise their kids with it. A step-by-step guide to help you bridge the gap between healing yourself and actually parenting differently.

Because breaking cycles is about more than just understanding what needs to change. It’s about knowing how to show up differently—moment by moment.

If this resonates with you, let’s talk. I’m building this course for parents like us—the ones figuring it out as we go. Drop a 💛 in the comments or send me a DM if you want first access when it launches!