The Triggered Momma
Triggered AF by your kids —
and confused because you KNOW better?
You probably don't need more parenting advice.
You need to understand why parenting is activating you in the first place.
The Triggered Momma helps overwhelmed parents understand what's underneath their reactions through a 4 Pillar Framework that looks at the whole picture — not just the trigger.
WHY AM I SO TRIGGERED?
Because parenting triggers don't come from one place.
You can know your child isn't giving you a hard time...
You can know yelling isn't helping...
You can know you want to respond differently...
...and still feel MAKE IT STOP when the whining starts.
That's because knowing better and having the capacity to respond differently are two completely different things.
That's why my work looks at four areas.
THE TRIGGERED MOMMA 4 PILLAR FRAMEWORK
01 — PAST + INNER WORK
What is this bringing up in me?
Childhood experiences. Attachment. Learned survival patterns. Inner-child wounds. Parts work. Shadow work. The meanings your nervous system learned long before you became a parent.
02 — IN-THE-MOMENT REGULATION
What happens to me when I'm activated?
Understanding your nervous system, recognizing activation earlier, pattern interrupts, regulation, creating the pause and learning how to repair when you don't.
03 — PRACTICAL SYSTEMS + CAPACITY
What is making parenting harder than it needs to be?
Support. Overstimulation. Household systems. Expectations. Boundaries. Mental load. Asking for help. Environment. Energy leaks. Actual capacity.
04 — IDENTITY + SELF-CONCEPT
Who am I becoming through this?
People pleasing. Perfectionism. Control. Guilt. Self-worth. Intuition. Self-trust. The identity of “good mom.” Releasing who you thought you had to be and intentionally becoming who you want to be
Not sure what you need?
Start Here!
→ FREE: Why Am I So Triggered? 4 Pillar Self Audit
Subscribe below and it will be emailed directly to you! Figure out which areas of my 4 Pillars may be contributing to your triggers and where to begin.
I want ongoing support and integration.
→ The Self Healing Parents Community
Weekday voice notes, monthly themes and ongoing exploration of the four pillars alongside other parents doing the work.
I have a specific trigger I can't figure out.
→ The Trigger Debrief
Take one trigger apart layer by layer and understand what is actually underneath it.
I'm ready to actually learn the work.
→ The Overstimulated Parent Course
Your self-paced deep dive into the tools, concepts and inner work behind the four pillars.
Hi, I'm Laura!
I desperately wanted my kids. And then motherhood
activated the f*ck out of me.
Before becoming a mom, I was an entrepreneur. I had
built successful businesses. I was independent, capable,
driven and pretty damn good at figuring things out.
And then I had two kids 15 months apart in my late 30s,
and suddenly the version of me who had always been able
to handle things felt completely unequipped for this.
I loved my kids deeply — and I was also overstimulated, touched out, anxious, triggered and completely confused by how intensely certain parts of parenting affected me.
The whining. The constant needs. The noise. The unpredictability. The inability to finish a thought before someone needed something else.
I could logically understand that my kids weren't doing anything to me. I knew the kind of parent I wanted to be. I could read the scripts, learn the parenting strategies and tell myself to take a breath.
And sometimes none of that mattered.
Because when I was activated, my body was reacting long before the rational part of my brain could remind me what I had learned.
So eventually I stopped asking:
“How do I become a more patient mom?”
And started asking:
“Why is this affecting me this much?”
That question took me somewhere parenting advice never could.
I started looking at my nervous system. My childhood. The patterns I had learned growing up.
People pleasing. Hypervigilance. Perfectionism. Control.
The parts of myself I had spent years trying to outgrow, suppress or make more palatable.
But I also realized something else:
Not every trigger was a childhood wound.
Sometimes I was under-supported.
Sometimes my environment was overstimulating.
Sometimes I had unrealistic expectations of myself.
Sometimes I needed a boundary, a better system, more capacity, more help or simply permission to stop trying to do everything perfectly.
And sometimes motherhood wasn't asking me to regulate my way back into the person I used to be.
It was asking me to become someone new.
That realization eventually became the foundation of The Triggered Momma and my 4 Pillar Framework.
Because I don't believe parenting triggers live in one neat little box.
I look at Past + Inner Work, In-the-Moment Regulation, Practical Systems + Capacity, and Identity + Self-Concept —
because all four can influence how we experience parenting and how we're able to show up inside of it.
This work isn't about becoming a perfectly regulated parent who never gets angry, overwhelmed or triggered.
I'm not that parent either.
It's about understanding yourself deeply enough that your reactions stop feeling like something that just happens to you.
It's learning to recognize what's yours. What's old. What's happening right now. What needs healing. What needs changing. What needs support. And what might simply need accepting.
Because I don't want to spend my kids' childhood waiting for parenting to get easier before I finally enjoy it.
And I don't want that for you either.
You don't need to become someone who never gets triggered.
You can become someone who understands what happens when you do — and knows what to do next.
That's the work we do here.
Come join us-
- Laura - Founder of "The Triggered Momma Project"
